What’s Your Opinion?

How do I tell my boyfriend it’s HIM not ME? My boyfriend is 28 years old, and I’m a 24-year-old female. My boyfriend insists that I get Labiaplasty since he feels that it takes too much effort from him and the intimate act is not the same anymore. How should I tell him that it's not me, it's him because I do not feel like faking anymore? I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We met in college when I was completing undergrad studies, and he was in post-grad school. We started dating, and continued the relationship even after graduation. I'm young and naive as I was back then. I thought it was exciting to be with someone different, someone smarter, and more accomplished than I was, so I started dating this guy outside my age group. We used to sleep together, sometimes twice a day, but it involved me faking it to enhance his experience. I would scream, call him daddy, and the usual dirty talk, and that gave him the illusion that he performs really well. I truly w...

I think my friend might be overstepping boundaries with my partner. I am a 26-year-old female and my partner is a 26-year-old male and have been dating for almost a year. Everything about our relationship has been great, in my opinion. There is one thing, however, that has been bothering me. For starters, let’s call my partner Moe. Moe is the kind of guy who gets along very easily with females and has a lot of female friends. I am generally quite secure, so I don’t mind this and also get along with his female friends when we hang out. There is, however, this one girl who is kind of giving me weird vibes and I want to know if I am overreacting. Let’s call this girl Angel, who is a 31-year-old female. Angel is the roommate of Moe’s younger sister, Ree, who is a 25-year-old female. At first, Moe and I would hang out with Angel when we went to bars for drinks with Ree. Eventually, she started joining all of our family dinners too. Like I said, I was fine with it. Angel seemed nice enough, ...

My boyfriend cheated on me with a transgender girl.  Hi all, so I’m a 21-year-old female and have been with my boyfriend, who’s a 25-year-old male, for four and a half years now. He's the first person I had sex with, so I don't really have a comparison of what's 'normal' or not. We've always been very active and liked to try new things. One of those things we've discovered is that he likes me stimulating him anally while he jerks off. I'm fine with it, less work for me, I guess. The thing is, he would start watching a lot of trans porn and said many times he'd like to try something with a transgender woman.  I struggle to convince myself it was my fault for not taking it seriously when he mentioned it. I mean, after all, fantasy is a fantasy, and I've always assumed if he really wanted to go with it, he'd just sit me down and talk about it, and I'd most likely be okay with him trying,,now instead of after being married 20 years and him wa...

My wife is a full-blown alcoholic.  My wife is a full-blown alcoholic. Every few days, I find a new bottle of vodka hidden in random parts of the house. She tries to hide it by brushing her teeth or chewing gum, but she can’t cover her flushed red cheeks the moment the alcohol enters her system. I can see it from a mile away. She drinks to sleep at night, which causes bad sleep. She’s constantly fighting with me about the most stupid things possible. Last night was her birthday and I went out of my way to do so many things to make her feel special, and she basically ruined the night screaming about nonsense so much that our 2 1/2 year-old had to tell her “mommy it is your birthday stop yelling”. She brought home some gifts from work and one of the gifts was a plant in a vase, which was wrapped with glued together pencils. They were simply held together with a dab of hot glue. When it was on the counter-top, our 4 1/2-year-old daughter was interested in it, and she took one of the p...

My father-in-law used to call me baby girl and sweetheart when he spoke to me. It made me feel a bit uncomfortable, so I asked my husband if it was normal behavior for his dad to speak like this. He said he was not aware of it, and he decided to confront his dad about it. Since then, his parents have stopped contacting me and I rarely hear from them. They try to be nice when we do come in contact, but I can tell that it is fake and vice versa for me.  When I asked my husband about why they are acting weird, he blamed me and said that they aren't used to someone who behaves like me and that I'm just so different from other (normal) people. He said that they pick up on my negative energy and that is why they keep their distance.  I feel like my husband should be trying to bridge the gap, instead of distancing me from the rest of his family. Any advice on what I should do or say to my husband or my in-laws to get things going in the right direction? What’s your opinion 🤨?

  To my husband, As I sit down to write this letter, my heart is filled with so many emotions. One of the strongest feelings I have right now is love—love for you, my partner, my confidant, my best friend. I want you to know that despite the arguments we may have, my love for you remains unwavering. In the midst of disagreements and heated discussions, it's easy to lose sight of the love that binds us together. But even in those moments of frustration and tension, I am reminded of the deep connection we share, the bond that transcends any disagreement or misunderstanding. You see, love isn't just about the good times; it's about weathering the storms together, holding each other close even when it feels like the world is pulling us apart. It's about understanding that we're not perfect, that we'll make mistakes and say things we don't mean, but choosing to forgive and move forward, hand in hand. Every argument we have is a testament to the strength of ou...

My husband's mother always has her hand out.  She has two sons and my husband is the youngest. She no longer asks her older son for money because he says no flat out without falling for her sad stories. Her lack of planning and lack of financial literacy always somehow becomes OUR problem. My husband and I no longer have a joint account because I do not want to help her any longer. We have separated our finances, but we still have a common goal we are saving towards. He can never get ahead because of her, and even knowing that he has a goal, she always has an emergency. One time he told her no and offered her help, by budgeting her money for her so that she was not overspending and taking care of her necessities first and helping her save and her wants last if anything was leftover, and she told him, as long as he had a job she would always have income, and he still gave in and gave her the money. It's ridiculous and I'm beyond over it. I'm at the point where enough is ...